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The winter holidays can be tough times for some children. For some, drunkenness, beatings, and screaming may be the sounds of the season. Or, now that Mom and Dad have split, the reality can truly hit home as children shuttle from place to place, or families are divided. Old wounds sting anew, as youngsters remember loved ones who have died, and those absent they wish
present. All around, the world seems to sing, alive in holiday colors, a festival of happiness that may leave many children sad, frustrated, alone or unhappy.
It can be very hard to effectively help children come to terms with the hand that life has dealt them. Depression may chase some of these youngsters like a relentless locomotive gaining speed, moving ever faster. While you will probably not be able to relieve all the pain and sadness, you can perhaps offer some relief and solace. The truth is that alcoholic moms don't drink less during the holidays. The truth is that during the holidays, absent dads remain absent. The truth is that serious family problems don't take a holiday-- even on the holidays.
Sadly, holidays can take serious family problems and multiply and amplify them as normal routines are discarded, and the family is alone together. Worst of all, for some children, you may be the only sane, sober, kind adult in their universe, and now you're gone on vacation. Here are some ways to "stretch" you beyond the conventional work week so you can help your troubled youngsters make it through the holidays.
INCREASE YOUR REACH
To extend your reach into the holiday period when you may not be in regular contact with your youngsters, find a way to maintain your connection. Make up postcards pre-addressed to you, and ask your youngsters to write to you over the break period. You can also prepare cards to mail to your distressed youngsters during that time period as well. You may also wish to arrange mentoring for especially vulnerable children. You can contact programs like Big Brother/Big Sister, or local church, civic or community groups.
IN THE SAFE ZONE
Even if you are a counselor, social worker or psychologist, it can be tough to get kids to reveal abuse, neglect and other pain. However, children are more likely to tell, if they know it is safe to talk. Evaluate your office or classroom to see how safe it may seem to your vulnerable youngsters. Here are the conditions to have in place:
Confidentiality: Children want to know that what is said in the room, stays in the room. If reporting requirements will impact this, tell the child first. They will feel betrayed if you tell them later.
Respect: Children want to know that they won't be put down or belittled if they tell you a "horrible" problem.
Uninterrupted Talk: Children want to know that they will have the time to say what they need to say, without frequent interruptions or distractions.
Competence: Children want you to know what to do and say to help; they don't want to have to deal with your dismay, confusion, limitations or sadness.
Boundaries: Children want to know what will happen, plus where and when. It is also important to have pre-arranged agreements about staying in the room instead of fleeing during times of upset.
Be Honest: Children seldom want more lies, confusion or deception. Even a small child has radar for untruths. You can dole out the truth in manageable doses, but don't mislead.
Make It Safe, Make It Okay: More than anything, children want you to make the situation better. Of course, often that won't be possible, but if you keep that goal in mind, it can guide you on what to do.
A DELICATE BALANCE
If some of your youngsters appear more stressed and troubled during the holidays, be sure that you adjust accordingly. Don't abandon your mission but you also don't want to accomplish it at all costs. Increase your expectations when the child appears more functional. If you can strike that balance, you can best offer your service to the troubled child without adding to the child's woes. Don't expect all your troubled children to quickly rebound in January. Depression doesn't follow a calendar.
TEACH THE FOLLY OF JOLLY
Even if you are in a school setting, it may be wise to educate your students to understand that many people struggle during holiday times. The more you can puncture the belief that "everyone is happy but me," the more these children may be able to manage their emotions.
CALL TO ACTION
Structuring the long hours of holiday free time can yield many benefits. Involve your youngsters in volunteer activities, especially those that involve helping people who are struggling. Helping others can sometimes build esteem, and give insight and perspective. Ensure that all your students become aware of recreational opportunities too. For youngsters from troubled families, time out of the home can also relieve some pressure.
THE SEASON TO INSPIRE
There are so many stories of triumph, endurance, courage and success that relate to this holiday season. What better time of year to inspire your children who face challenges? Two old favorites to consider depending on the age of your youngsters: Dickens' "A Christmas Carol," and the old classic "It's a Wonderful Life."
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| Author: Ruth Wells, M.S. |
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Author Bio:
Get much more information on this topic at www.youthchg.com and theclassroommanagementsite.com. See hundreds more of innovative, problem-stopping interventions at the Youth Change web site. Ruth Wells MS is the director of Youth Change. Ruth is the author of dozens of books including the popular Temper and Tantrum Tamers, Turn On the Turned-Off Student, Last Chance School Success Guide and Maximum-Strength Motivation-Makers. She annually trains hundreds of teachers, counselors and youth professionals in staff development workshops, conferences, seminars and in-service throughout the country. Get free samples and see 100s more of her problem-stopping interventions at Youth Change's web site. Ruth is the author of dozens of books and ebooks, and conducts professional development workshops. Please visit us at our website at www.youthchg.com or feel free to call us at 1-800-545-5736. |
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